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How to Be a Real Superman- A Guide for Christian Dads

Steve Boctor
Written by Steve Boctor

Do you want to be a real “Superman”? Learn about the three things a Christian father must defend from author, speaker and pastor, Steve Boctor.


Superman: Man of Steel will be opening in theaters this week. For many kids, and their fathers, he is the best super hero ever created. He arrived on earth as a baby, discovering his amazing super powers only as he got older. He used his powers for good by defending people, cities and even the whole earth from imminent danger and destruction.

Superman may be a fictional character created by two men back in the 1930’s, but God, the creator of all men, wants to raise up real “Super Men” on this earth. These men have many endearing names: “father”, “daddy”, “dad”, or “dada.” And they are called by God to be defenders as well.

Consider the following three things fathers must defend for the good of their families and this world.

FIRST: Men are called to DEFEND their CHARACTER.

Kent Hughes says; “Character determines the course of one’s life here on earth” (Disciplines of a Godly Man, pg. 130).

Your character is reflected by the morals and values you live by publicly and privately.

Your children will follow in your footsteps. The question remains: Whose footsteps will you choose to follow?

However, this world lost its moral compass the day it chose to ignore the guidance of a holy and good God. Instead we’ve given in to ambiguous and damaging morals that destroy our character, our homes and our lives.

The legacy people will remember you for is not what you’ve done but who you became. Your character not only determines the course of your life, but also the course of your children’s lives. Your children will follow in your footsteps. The question remains: Whose footsteps will you choose to follow?

Joshua, after he brought the Israelites into the Promised Land, challenged God’s children with these words:

“So honor the Lord and serve him wholeheartedly…But if you are unwilling to serve the Lord, then choose today whom you will serve. … But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:14-15—NLT)

Fathers, defend your character and choose to live a holy life following the one true God as He guides you towards right morals and values.

SECOND: Men are called to DEFEND their FAMILY

“We dealt with you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into His Kingdom and glory.” (1 Thessalonians 2:11-12)

When your children make mistakes or don’t achieve the best score or most goals how will you respond? Your children will feel discouraged and they will need their fathers to encourage them. When they are experiencing the hurts and pains of life they need will your comfort – not insensitive comments like: “Big boys don’t cry!”, “Suck it up…you’ll get over it!” or “Don’t worry honey, there’s other fish in the sea.”

When they are being told that bad is good and immoral behaviour is fine as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone, you need to steer them on the right path. Don’t abdicate this responsibility to the school system or even the church.

Another way to defend your family is to show your kids that you love and care for your wife—their mother. What an example you will be to your son when he gets married and to your daughter when she looks for a husband.

FINALLY: Men are called to DEFEND the TRUTH

The Bible talks about two kinds of men: foolish and wise. The difference between them is what they choose to do with the truths that God reveals in His Word. Those men who ignore it are considered foolish. Those men who live by it are called wise. (See Matthew 7:24-27)

If you want to be wise men…then the challenge is simple: read the Bible, obey it and let it change you.

James warns us that when we open the Bible, we are not to be like the man who looks at his face in the mirror and goes away forgetting what he saw or looked like. Instead, we are to do what the Bible tells us (James 1:22-25).


If you want to be SUPER MAN…then take your calling seriously and become a DEFENDER of your:


I wonder what our society would look like if we had more Super Men as fathers?


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Steve Boctor

Steve Boctor

As a pastor, author and dynamic speaker, Steve Boctor believes in challenging people to reach their fullest potential in Christ. Steve is currently the Lead Pastor at Huron Park Baptist Church in Woodstock, Ontario. He recently published a book on parenting called The ABC’s of Parenting: 26 Practical Lessons for Building a Healthy & Happy Home- an easy-to-read, biblically based and highly practical book that will help you raise a strong, healthy and godly family. You can learn more about Steve at

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